The DADvenger Initiative: Iron Man

I am working out my GEEKels (Geek Kegels) as we approach the theatrical release of the Avengers movie! I already have a series called Modern Myths that talks about comic characters in popular.  This is an extension of that idea asking what if I had a dad with their traits, and am I that kind of dad?  It’s just another reason for me to Geek-Out on my blog, so enjoy and check back as I work through the roster!


If Iron Man was my Dad! 

Iron Man is an obvious story about the influence a father has to his son.  The best part in the movies is when Tony is watching the videos and he has the entire idea he’s had of his dad turned inside out, and “rediscovers” the element his father left for him.  That is a clear illustration of what it means to impact the world through our kids; to give them the tools to take what you could do further.  However, Tony, is plagued to try and live up to the legend of his father.  “He helped us defeat the Germans,” they tell him.  This leaves the man to struggle with his own legacy.  Creating WMDs was not Howard Stark’s greatest legacy, but it was Tony, his mind, and the path he chose to lead.  Initially, Tony/Iron Man would make for an ambitious but disengage father.  He was so concerned with himself, then with fixing the problems of his business, then the spotlight of being a superhero that he would have no time for a home life.

If I’m Iron Man to my kids!

When a father struggles with anxiety of what may come in the future, or what has happened in the past, they are blind to the legacy they have an effect on every day.  What good is it for a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul?  Who cares how the world reveres me if my children loathe my existence?  If I’m an Iron Man Dad, then I’m more concerned with success outside of my home than within.  Life is about balance among all aspects of our life: work, home, and personal.

The Wrap Up!

Iron Man is an interesting character because he is a brilliant, narcissistic, rich, playboy who has a sudden stroke of conscious that causes him to add something noble into his life.  He is what many women hate about men, and what they fault us for as dads: logical, rational, compartmentalizing, mechanical, career-driven, and stubborn.  I don’t see these as faults, but as my blog-friend Bruce Sallan says, we are the other side of the equation. Iron Man alone can only do so much, but in order for him to be truly great, he needs someone else to compliment his strengths and weaknesses.



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5 comments on “The DADvenger Initiative: Iron Man

  1. Did I mention Iron Man is one of my favorite characters? Love the personal struggle. His mythology always resonated with me because of his alcoholism and being a kid with a father who struggled with that too (he got sober thankfully).

  2. Of all the Avengers, I don’t think I would want to be Tony Stark. Too many qualities that are undesirable. Smart? Sure, but at what price. Great character, lousy father figure.

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