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Modern Mythologies – Aquaman by @Jetts31


For this post I want to thank Jimmy (@Jetts31) from Founding A Father for contributing this to the Modern Myths Series.  This is a great take on an often overlooked but always utilized character.  I know you will enjoy it, and also stop by Jimmy’s Twitter and website as well.

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As a lifelong fanboy, I have been glued to Joe’s ‘Modern Mythology’ series.  I love how he has taken iconic characters, characters I have grown up with, and spun them to reflect Dadhood (yes, I mean that pun).  So when he asked for someone to contribute a guest post for his site, I jumped at the chance.  My obvious choice of what to add was to be towards his ‘Modern Mythology’ series and I had a specific character in mind.

Aquaman.

Aquaman is from the DC Universe, created by Paul Norris and Mort Weisinger.  Aquaman, no matter what your thoughts are about the character, is one of the oldest and most recognizable in comic books. His first appearance dates back to ‘More Fun Comics’ #73 in September of 1941 which makes him as old as Captain America and Wonder Woman and older than Hal Jordan’s Green Lantern.

While his origin has been told and retconned throughout the years, it has been recently established by the writers and editors at DC, that Aquaman is Arthur Curry, the half human son of Tom Curry and Atlanna, an Atlantean princess.  He is the king of Atlantis, King of the Seven Seas, the Aquatic Ace, the Marine Marvel, and maybe one of the most over looked heroes in all of comics.

So what could the guy in the green and orange tights who talks to sea life have to do with modern dads?

Aquaman has never really been taken seriously by the masses.  While Batman and Superman have had phenomenal (and not unwarranted) success and seen their comic book titles run continuously throughout the years, Aquaman has had multiple series come and go, been without a title multiple times throughout his history, and had his longest run in his own title go a meager 75 issues.  Aquaman, who was a founding member of the Justice League in 1960, has been the butt of jokes, not taken seriously as a character, and pushed to the background.  He has gone through changes with his character, his appearance, his demeanor, and his appearances in the mainstream DC Universe.

Yet the character has endured…for over 70 years.  He has been in other titles if he was not in his own; he was in the first Justice League. He was included in Grant Morrison’s Justice League run, the Brightest Day arc, and he was added to DC’s recent relaunch, 52, with the Justice League and in his own (popular) title.  For a character long mired in retcons, re-do’s, overhauls, and modern media parodies, Aquaman has been a mainstay and an important piece in the DC Universe standing shoulder to shoulder with the likes of Batman and Superman.

Dads of today should take notice.

Like the King of Atlantis, we have watched while others got credit, glory, or top billing.  Despite how he has been portrayed in the media, his importance to his comic universe remains.  Dads of today are going through much of what Aquaman has been through in his 71 years as a character (without the harpoon hand or a half-brother who is our arch-nemesis).  The need for us to be active members of our children’s lives is important no matter what has been said about us, how many times we have been pushed to the background, parodied or slighted in the media…or how ridiculous any of us would look talking to dolphins in green and orange tights.

The DC Universe needs Aquaman and our families need us.

Aquaman has endured.  He has evolved, changed, changed back, and changed again to best fit the moments he has occupied the pages.  We as fathers can learn a lesson from Arthur Curry, aka Orin, aka Aquaman.  Our job, as dads is to evolve, change, change back, and back again so that we may best fit what our families’ need from us.  We shouldn’t require the spotlight, top billing or even presume to be taken seriously because we are undeniably needed, we are important, and we will endure.

-Jimmy

The Parental Potty-Mouth


This post has been inspired by my 2 year-old, DestructiCon.  Today, he wanted to call me and let me know he had farted.  The Wife had him text it instead, which he did. “I d. Farterd”

I am so proud.

I am flabbergasted by some of the conversations my wife and I have that revolve around the scatological processes of the young human body.  It starts in pregnancy when a bean-sized human begins growing and throwing off the female hormones, or Pregnancy Juices.  Then, our doctors told us to track the pooping patterns of our newborn to make sure it was the right color, consistency, and frequency.  Early on, the poop changes from a black tar-like substance to what can only be called… Baby-Dodo.  If you are breastfeeding your child, it has a tangy bite to the smell.  However, if you child is on formula, it smells like they found something dead and put it in their diaper.

As solids are introduced to the eating equation, the level of putrid-ness of the diaper grows.  There have been times where my son would not poo for a day, then the next morning there would be a pushing out of the cork, then Mt. St. Helens will erupt from his little tooshie soon after.  If you have not cleaned up poop from a place called “Everywhere” then you just have not lived.  My daughter was nice enough as a toddler to take her poop and spread it everywhere (I was finding more days after I thought I had cleaned it up), and my son crop-dusted the floor with droplets.

One of the worse experiences, is when your child eats what you eat, but is not yet potty-trained.  I often find myself looking for the grown adult who is dropping payloads into my kids’ diapers.  When it comes time to train your child to use the porcelain light at the end of the diaper tunnel, talking about poop and pee (and even cheering about it) becomes normal.  I can’t remember talking about farting and pooping and peeing this much since college, and I look forward to the day when that little face comes running around a corner screaming the 5 most magical words any parent could hear: I POOPED IN THE POTTY!

-JB

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Spring Preview: Ducks of Summer


I downloaded the iMovie app for my iPhone and iPad, and LOVE it.  I get to feel super creative… More-so than I really am.  Here’s a preview I made on a sunny Seattle Spring day looking forward to the warm days spent on the Lake at the in-laws’ with the kids.

-JB

Who’s Better: Moms or Dads?


Who the F* Cares?

It is my understanding that when it comes to parenting, there is no better, only different.  I am a MAN, and my wife is a WOMAN.  Our perspectives are different.  The way we deal with and cope with the world is different.  The interests we have are different.  Our hobbies and the ways we want to vacation are different.  Is one better than the other?  Well, I like to think mine is better, but that is just MY perspective.

When it comes to parenting, there is no better, but it is our differences that should compliment one another.  These differences stem NOT from gender, but from upbringing, exposures, experiences, and culture.  There are things that my wife does amazingly, and there are things that I don’t do half-bad.  One thing I KNOW for a FACT that my wife does better than me is breastfeed.  After that, it’s up for debate.  My kids want to wrestle with me and shower her in kisses and snuggles.  My kids want to play baseball with me and read with her.  My kids try to lick my head and they sing with her.

Is one thing better than the other, or are all these things necessary for kids to grow?  If I was a single parent I know my kids would miss my wife’s influence not because it’s better, but because it would add to the people they with grow into.  As Bruce Sallan says, “We are the other side of the equation.”

When it comes to parenting, there is no better, only different.

-JB

This post was in response to a piece of $h!t post published on Babble.com, which was recently bought by Disney.

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Reconciling Manhood & Dadhood: Connection


I’ve come to the conclusion that Manhood and Dadhood do, in fact, have things in common and not only in opposition to each other. Since I started this blog I been looking for what is it that makes a man and what is it that makes a dad and what I’m about to say is the first characteristic that they share. 

Connecting to other dads.

There is something special that happens when men come together and especially when dads come together in a common cause; in the mindset to discuss their experiences and to make each other better. What is really comes down to, is that when men are together (no matter the situation) he’ll fight for the lives of those they care about and the men around them. One of the things I’m learning is to connect to dads through their blogs and not just on Twitter.

This connection is not only in the mentor/mentee capacity, which some of us might need, but it is in a capacity of a brotherhood sharing and discussing and debating and just connecting.

No Man is an Island

Iron Sharpens Iron

He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My Brother

These are not proof of the need for men and dads to connect to one another, but they do illustrate that I am not coming up with a new idea.  I am just coming to the realization of what has helped me in the last couple years has been the connections i have to other men who are dads.

What do you think? Can a man/dad be a complete individual without the connections and brotherhood of other good men?

-JB

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The Justice League of Dad Bloggers


 

There are some blogs and bloggers that I enjoy reading.  I am going to share six blogs that you should definitely check out.  Since I am a geek, I am going to fit them into the Justice League characters.  These choices and opinions are strictly from my own opinion so please don’t argue with me as to who should be which character or someone else was left out.  This is all my own opinions, and you can keep your wrong opinions to yourself.

SUPERMAN: Bruce Sallan

www.BruceSallan.com  @BruceSallan

Bruce is the man!  When I was trying to throw together DADuary this last year, Bruce came to my rescue in the form of a phone conversation that helped me begin to focus.  He also went above and beyond by letting my hijack one of his hugely popular #DadChats and put me on his radio show.  If you’re asking what I want to do with blogging, look no further than Bruce; content is king ,and he attracts quality people and guests.

BATMAN & ROBIN: Charlie and Andy

 

www.HowToBeADad.com  @HowToBeADad

This dynamic duo never fails to get the job done. Every time I stop by their blog, I am pleased by what I see.  Whether it is diagrams, pics, videos, or writings, there is no social media technology they have not utilized. I can picture them getting ready to put together posts and saying, “Quick, to the Dad Cave!”

GREEN LANTERN: Adam Cohen

 

www.DadaRocks.com  @DadaRocks

In a Twitter conversation that included Adam, he explained the many sites he’s had a hand in creating.  He has his finger on the pulse of parent blogs and is the voice for dads in many mom-dominated events and sites.  He seems to know what has been going on and is working, with great determination, towards making that voice of dads heard more and more.

WONDER WOMAN: Holly Pavlika

 

www.HaveMOMentum.com  @HollyPavlika

Much like Wonder Woman, Holly can hold her own up against these guys.  I enjoy interactions with Holly, and if there ever was a #MILFF (Mom I Like to Follow Friday), it is Holly.

AQUAMAN: Lamar & Ronnie

 

www.BlackandMarriedwithKids.com  @BlackandMarried

I think it would take me too long to fully explain why I put Lamar and Ronnie as Aquaman, so I will not try.  I will say that they have an amazing focus that some may say separates them from the general discussions of families and marriage since they focus on the Black Community.  However, what they are doing is great and will help all communities.

THE FLASH: Benjamin

 

www.MyRadDad.com  @MyRadDad

Ben is a friend of mine who is new to blogging and he fits this league because he is young, and funny and quick-witted.  I find myself laughing whenever I visit Ben’s site, or his family.  Underneath the humor lies a good guy, a good dad, and a good husband.

This is my own Justice League of Dad Bloggers!  I purposefully did not include anyone who is already a part of the DADvenger initiative.  Bottom line: there’s a LOT of great dad (and mom) blogs out there!  These are some of my faves!

-JB